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Fast Wedding Planning?

So one of my friends was telling me about her friend who’s going to get married “this fall” but hasn’t chosen a date or made any plans. Well, the fall is coming up and it got me wondering about how quickly someone could plan a wedding if they haven’t been dreaming about this day since they were 5. My guess is that they could plan a wedding in 4-6 weeks.
The best way to pull this off is to find a venue in their geographical region that would have a wedding package or a list of vendors which works at the venue often. This way, it eliminates the process of searching caterer/photographer/florist/etc.

So here’s what I think are the steps:

Week 1:
1) Find a venue. This will dictate your date.
2) Tell all your guests via phone/email/evite/paper invite. If you have fewer than 50 guests, you should consider calling them (it’s cheaper). Besides, it would be nice to have a chat with them. If you have more guests, maybe you could send out an email/evite. If you think that’s too tacky, then go to Michael’s (w/ a 40% off coupon of course!), Office Depot or Target and buy some blank wedding invites to print at home (or after hours at work when no one’s looking).

Week 2:
3) Find/Shop for a dress (unless you have something white/off-white/cream/any color works really, except maybe for black). It’s your wedding, you can wear whatever you want.
4) The Groom can wear a nice suit that he already owns, though maybe he could buy a new tie for the occasion.
5) Nix the wedding party, but if you must, choose 1 bridesmaid and 1 groomsman. This way, they can wear something they already own and you don’t have to worry about matching.
6) Choose a caterer and taste the foods to select a menu. It would be convenient if the caterer also does cakes. Though you could go around tasting cakes from other places, because it’s fun and who doesn’t like free cake?
7) Choose a photographer from the list of vendors.
8) Find an officiant (if your venue doesn’t come with one. It could be a friend or relative).

Week 3:
9) Find a florist or choose your flower package if it’s included with the venue package. Just stick with the minimum: bride’s bouquet (and one for bridesmaid if necessary), groom’s boutonneire (and groomsman if necessary), corsages for moms and boutonnieres for dads. You could also make your own wedding flowers if you or your friends are somewhat crafty. Just buy the flowers from Costco, Trader Joe’s, Whole Foods, etc. This route definitely saves you money but is more trouble.

Week 4:
10) Make dinner seating chart.
11) Make day of schedule.
12) Find some friends to be ushers/gift table & check-in table workers.
13) Apply for marriage license.
14) Gift registry.

I think that pretty much covers the basics of wedding planned in a short amount of time. There are other things one could add, but it’s all icing after these things. Here are some other things you could end up doing but aren’t essential:

1) Hair & Makeup (if you know how to apply a bit of makeup and curl/style your own hair, you’re set).
2) Guest book (how many people actually look at this afterwards?)
3) Transportation (you could rent a limo if you wanted)
4) Multiple outfits (some brides like to change into other dresses)
5) Bride accessories (jewelry & hairpieces)
6) Programs
7) Cake topper and serving set.
8) Manicure & pedicure (though you can just do your own).
9) Random other stuff I can’t think of at the moment.

And there you have it. You COULD plan a wedding in 4-6 weeks if you don’t have any preconceived ideas about how it should go.

Scarf Girl, signing off.

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DIY Wedding Bouquets

One reason why I like shopping at Trader Joe’s is for their selection of flowers. They usually have a good variety of flowers that won’t break the bank. Every so often when I shop, I peruse the flower section and buy whatever stands out to me.

I recently picked up some mini purplish calla lilies. The price: $8 for 20 stems. What a deal! This reminded me of when my friends were shopping around for calla lily wedding bouquets and were quoted over $200. It got me thinking. Why not shop at Trader Joe’s (or other common stores like Lucky’s, Safeway, Whole Foods or even Costo)? As long as you don’t have any specific ideas about a bouquet, you could save tons of money.

I just bunched the 20 stems together and tied it with a rubberband before snapping this photo. I’m not a florist so I say pretty much any person could make their own bouquets with a little care. 20 stems makes a pretty small bouquet (suitable for bridesmaids), so I’d suggest 2 bunches for a bride’s bouquet.

Consider the price difference:

3 bunches of callas for your bridesmaids bouquet: $24
2 bunches of callas for the bride’s bouquet: $16
Total: $40
3 bridesmaids bouquets from a florist: $50-$70 each = $150-$210
1 calla lily bouquet for the bride from a florist: $250+
Total: $400+

You could be saving several hundred dollars on flowers. I’d say that’s definitely worth the effort.Scarf Girl, signing off.

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High School Musical First Wedding Dance

So back in January, I went to a wedding in Cancun, Mexico. The wedding was held on a beach at Dreams Resort, a nice little spot on hotel row. It was definitely a really fun time. What made it even more fun (or funny) was the HSM first dance routine where some of us friends participated in.

The first dance started off with Richard Marx’s version of “I Can’t Help Falling In Love”, followed by “We’re All In This Together” from the first High School Musical movie.

View the wedding dance video: www.scarfgirl.net/videos/hsm-firstdance.html

View the practice video: www.scarfgirl.net/videos/hsm-dance.html

Scarf Girl, signing off.

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Yay… it works again… and other things

So my blog was down for a little while due to some technical difficulties. Anyway, it’s back up! Hooray!

Anyway, what’s new with Scarf Girl? Well, Scarf Girl and, uh, Scarf (Boy?) are looking to sell our place. Yeah, yeah, it’s “not the best time” but hey, it’s better than 6 months from now. So, I’ve been brushing up on this “staging your home” phenomenon (well, it’s not that new, it just seems uber trendy now), and watching my newest favorite HGTV show “Get It Sold.” That lady sure knows how to transform a place with minimal cost. Just a bit of elbow grease and some creativity.

I’ll be posting some before and afters soon enough. We just have to get through this packing up enough items to make our place look clutter free, but not so empty that it looks like nobody lives there.
Scarf Girl, signing off.

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What’s In A Name?

So I finally hauled myself down to a Social Security office earlier today and submitted my paperwork to get my name legally changed. It’s going to take a lot getting used to. The process I dare say was relatively painless. In fact, it took the administrator about 5 minutes to type things up on the computer. Too bad it took 45 minutes of waiting. Advice for all, you can call and make an appointment. That will speed things up immensely.
While I’m glad that it didn’t take a long time, it’s kinda scary how it just seems arbitrary and easy that someone could break into the office or something and start messing with people’s SSNs.

Next is the DMV to change my driver’s license. The administrator said I shouldn’t go today, which I was going to, because the new name wouldn’t be in the system.

http://dmv.ca.gov/dl/dl_info.htm#two504

For the DMV, I believe I have to fill out a form (DL 44), pay $22, give a thumb print, and take a new photo. Oh, I better make an appointment so I don’t have to wait.

Scarf Girl, signing off.

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Selling My Wedding Gown

Well, finally after talking about doing it, I did it. Well, sorta. I listed my wedding gown on Craigslist. Chances are, it won’t get snagged up since many brides want a “new dress.” But really, I wore it at my wedding and after I got it cleaned, it’s been hanging in my closet ever since.

Though with the economy being so bad and people tightening their belts, I’m sure wedding budgets are shrinking as well. People are probably being a bit more practical and budget-concious. I suppose that could be good for me.

Anyway, buying a second-hand dress has a lot of perks. It’s normally good as new, you don’t have to get it altered from the 5′10″ supermodel body that the dress was made for (which can cost you quite a bit), and chances are it is more likely to fit you than something you buy from David’s Bridal. Additionally, there’s no tax and the bustle has probably been added. If you’re lucky, the bride will have their petticoat, veil and maybe even shoes. Think of it as a one stop shop. Save time AND money. What more could a bride ask for?

Scarf Girl, signing off.

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Changing Your Name With Social Security

If you get married and you want to change your name, you start with Social Security.

Marriage, divorce or annulment: In addition to showing us a legal document proving your marriage, divorce or annulment, you must provide an identity document. That document must show your old name, as well as other identifying information or a recent photograph. (We can accept an expired document as evidence of your old name.) ”
Info:
http://ssa-custhelp.ssa.gov/cgi-bin/ssa.cfg/php/enduser/std_adp.php?p_faqid=315

Form:
http://www.socialsecurity.gov/online/ss-5.pdf

Proof:
1) Marriage Document (original)
2) ID with your current name w/ a photo (a Passport probably works)

They say you can mail in the application along with your proof, but showing up is probably the safest way to ensure nothing gets lost. Seems pretty straight forward, but I wonder if visiting the SS office is as annoying as visiting the DMV.
Scarf Girl, signing off.

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What’s In A Name?

So I recently went to a wedding and I think the bride is planning to hyphenate her name. That just reminded me that I should decide/act about changing my name. So, do I drop my maiden name completely or just tack on a new one?

I think I’m leaning towards tacking it on to the end (not in the hyphenating way), but just adding a “middle name.” This way, I still keep my name and I take his. Guess everybody wins.

Now comes the long boring process of name changing. I believe for “Stage 1″ I start with Social Security, then Driver’s License and Passport. Stage 2 is banks, credit cards, services and investment accounts. Stage 3 is everything else that isn’t included in Stage 1 or 2 (online stores, etc).

I wonder if I can just keep using my maiden name for most things in life since it isn’t completely disappearing.
Scarf Girl, signing off.

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The HSM Dance

So I really am not sure why this all started, but I know one thing, we look so goofy doing the High School Musical dance! Here’s our behind the scenes practicing for W&K’s big day! I’m sure it will be a very unique first wedding dance!

The video!

Scarf Girl, signing off.

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Cheaper Weddings

With everyone worrying about the economy, it’s no wonder that people are cutting back where they can. One place that you’d think would still want to splurge is for their wedding. You know, because of the “dreamed of this day” mentality that has been drilled into our heads through a lifetime of movies and tv shows.

Well, this article seems to show us that people are becoming more practical about weddings: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/26721403/. I suppose only something drastic like the economy melting down would be powerful enough to get people to finally become more practical about their wedding.

DIY (do it yourself) is definitely a way to save money, but how about NDI (not doing it) for unnecessary things? One thing to immediately take off the table are those giant flower centerpieces. There are many things you could substitute if you would like to have something in the middle.
Scarf Girl, signing off.

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